Dear Wives,

Remember how you were anxious about your folks meeting him too? Remember how you knew and did all the latest hairstyles just to retain his attention knowing there’s a tough competition out there? Remember how you took extra care as you dress up each day? How excited you were waking up each morning and looking forward to the next communication with your ‘Bobo’? Remember how reading a text from him brightens up your day and when he hasn’t called you for the whole morning, you start wondering if there’s nothing wrong? Remember how you didn’t mind taking your time to go to the market and cook for him? Take care of his apartment whenever you visit? Tried to know all his area of interests and hobbies? Generally just tried your best to make him happy? So, why the change now?

Have you tried to sit down and analysis how you felt when you were in courtship and now that you are married for years? Does it ever feel the same way? Has the feeling improved greatly or declined? Do you still smile when you receive his text or you just take it as a normal thing? Do you still feel that warm feeling when you speak to him on the phone or you are so used to his voice now that it has no effect on you?

These days we only take care of our hair and dressing when we are leaving the house but what of when you are in the house? Do you cage that beautiful hairdo under that hairnet and wear one of your old worn dresses round the house? Is love making a routine now? Does it excite you like it used to back then? Do you look for ways as a woman to keep it hot for him even when he doesn’t encourage you? Do you treat competition as another way to improve on yourself or you demean yourself to start negatively comparing yourself to others?

CULTURE ALERT!!!!

There a lot of misconceptions about marriage we have been nurtured with as we grew up, especially as Africans. A lot of culture has been doctored in our subconscious about how to conduct ourselves in our marriages. I have nothing against our culture, it has helped us in some ways, but we should understand that GOD instituted marriage not culture, thus only God standards should be upheld in our marriages not what culture dictates to us. This is the sole reason why a lot us come to a point in our marriage where we feel like we need to take a breather and some actually walk out on their marriages, meanwhile if we had chosen our partners according to God’s word not Culture, it will always be easy to go back to God and commit your spouse to him.

· Culture says ‘you are not getting any younger, your mates are all married while some have children, just flow with any man that comes your way that appears like the man of your dreams’ but God says ‘Don’t flow with the tide, I know better and my time is the Best, I will give you the one after my heart’

· Culture says ‘if he/she is not from your tribe or neighboring tribe, don’t get married to them, but God says ‘There’s neither Jew or Greek, everyone is the same before me’

Married and Fulfilling PURPOSE...

Purpose doesn't jump on you, you work it out. Most times when you start, it doesn't look like it but keep going & it will take shape if you are diligent. For singles, this is the perfect timing for you to ensure you are rooted in your purpose before marriage. Whoever wants to marry you will meet you at the door of your assignment, so it will be easy for them to blend with whatever purpose God has placed in your hand.

Your purpose attracts the right person to you because everything and everyone was created for a purpose. Let's take the case of a pencil in the hands of those who knows it value and can make good use of it, that is the same way it is when you are in the place of your purpose. When you however get married, your purpose receives another level of grace because you now carry the merger anointing of two becoming one.

 

There is a blessing that comes with marrying the right person such that if one was chasing one thousand before, the two coming together will be able to chase ten thousand, meaning there is a multiplication anointing that comes with marriage that affects every area of your life. What you should however know is that it is never too late to start walking in purpose.