Dear Wives,

Remember how you were anxious about your folks meeting him too? Remember how you knew and did all the latest hairstyles just to retain his attention knowing there’s a tough competition out there? Remember how you took extra care as you dress up each day? How excited you were waking up each morning and looking forward to the next communication with your ‘Bobo’? Remember how reading a text from him brightens up your day and when he hasn’t called you for the whole morning, you start wondering if there’s nothing wrong? Remember how you didn’t mind taking your time to go to the market and cook for him? Take care of his apartment whenever you visit? Tried to know all his area of interests and hobbies? Generally just tried your best to make him happy? So, why the change now?

Have you tried to sit down and analysis how you felt when you were in courtship and now that you are married for years? Does it ever feel the same way? Has the feeling improved greatly or declined? Do you still smile when you receive his text or you just take it as a normal thing? Do you still feel that warm feeling when you speak to him on the phone or you are so used to his voice now that it has no effect on you?

These days we only take care of our hair and dressing when we are leaving the house but what of when you are in the house? Do you cage that beautiful hairdo under that hairnet and wear one of your old worn dresses round the house? Is love making a routine now? Does it excite you like it used to back then? Do you look for ways as a woman to keep it hot for him even when he doesn’t encourage you? Do you treat competition as another way to improve on yourself or you demean yourself to start negatively comparing yourself to others?




Do you remember to adore your man through the various social media available to you? Or you prefer to put your children all the time? Some of us women go as far as transferring the endearing names we call our husbands to the kids and even broadcast it to the world? Do you create time each day to honour your husband as God says we should or you are busy telling everyone what a kind of husband you have? As women, we have so much roles to play in upholding our marriages. Have you wondered how our mothers are able to keep their homes?

They learnt fast that even if their husband had concubines outside, they still had legal rights to the home and did that just basically because of their children, but we have a better covenant and so much information available to us in this age. We don’t have to keep our homes because of our children, let’s keep our homes to enjoy it, let’s keep our homes for us, let’s make the next generation of wives and mothers proud of having mothers like us, let’s live, love, enjoy and get the best of our marriages…God’s blessings always