Let's talk about SEX!

Back to sex in marriage, try not to get over familiar with your partner's body, if not you'd see sex as boring and monotonous. Be creative with ideas and know what turns your spouse on. Wifeys, please discard that 1900s nightgown your mum bought for you as a wedding gift and surprise your spouse with some eye popping night wear. Let him always have something to look forward to when coming home. Dudes, please nah, stop wearing the boxers you've been wearing for almost three days now,it's a complete turn off, the smell of freshness gives the head a tingling sensation, even if she wasn't in the mood before, that alone can set the tone. If you got a package that's shabbily wrapped and one that was beautifully wrapped, which would you choose? 

If there's any change or difference in your spouse, always be the first to notice, this also enhances couple's sexual lives. Before marriage, you noticed and remembered everything, but now that you are married, you can't even notice something as obvious but minute as a new hairdo, meanwhile all his/her colleagues have talked about how beautiful/handsome your spouse looks (happens to me a lot). The truth I've learnt however is if you want a wonderful marriage, you must remember the law of sowing and reaping. Stop complaining, start sowing with as little as a compliment, a romantic text message during work hours, a surprise visit at work can be a bit tardy if you work in Lagos, or a call to check up on him/her and say how much you love him/her, you'd be amazed at the results.
Whenever you have a fight with your spouse , you will experience strings of different emotions, especially when it's not your fault. At this rate, it's important you sort out your feelings with your spouse rather than 'reporting' to someone else. If after talking to your spouse, things don’t work out, and then you can 'prayerfully and discreetly' talk to an elderly couple that your spouse respects. Note I said elderly couple, that's because in this journey you can't trade years of experience for gold and I'm sure they will be able to share their own struggles with you and how they were able to overcome it. Don't ever deceive yourself that your marriage is perfectly made from heaven, it's all about two imperfect people coming together to perfect and complete each other. Quick tip: Learn quickly from your last friction with your spouse, maximise results and minimise mistakes. Meanwhile, am I the only one who thinks the lovemaking after a just settled fight is always explosive? *wink wink*