SHARE....LOVE....TRUST

Having spoken to variety of married people, one thing I have come to realize is that a lot of us are trying to get ourselves occupied with other things outside marriage. Majority of married women now live a routine life, especially those that have been married for a while. Wake up, prepare for work, hustle through the day, get home prepare dinner, and then we are just too tired to SHARE a decent conversation of how the day went with our spouse. I must admit that recently, the toll of couples trying to beat this system is on the increase but those being weighed down by it too are also increasing. I am sure those trying can say that it hasn't been easy; because of this a lot of US are just living through our marriages.

Can you honestly say that at least once in a month you and your partner take time out for heart to heart talks? Bothering issues at work even issues that subtly threaten your marriage? Some of us have forgotten to LOVE, we just live for the next day.
Before you say Yetunde, it’s not fair to judge this way, I have to say that a lot of spouses are also not making an effort at this and thus the other partner gets discouraged and just find a way to occupy the space. For most women, it’s in the kitchen, beside their children…while most men in front of the TV…lolzzz especially the football and movie fanatics…hmnnn!

While this is not even the worst case scenario to what some couples face, I cringe inside when I speak to some married women and I practically feel the loneliness behind their voices, you can tell that they are being starved of companionship and are just living in the marriage because such things are considered trivial issues to break up a home. Unfortunately for us, the way our generation is going, it’s these ‘trivial’ issues that break up homes and increases divorce rates. More worrying is the fact that, these women acknowledged it never used to be like this when they were in courtship, so what changed? Pressures of the work, life? Isn’t that why the bible said two is better than one, so they can have a better reward for their Labour? And this applies to the men too, some men crave personal time with their wives, but the woman is all around doing this and that without staying for a while to cater for her man’s inner needs, some women don’t even care anymore because we believe all men are cheats, so why kill myself anyways? Well, except you have had reasons to think so, have you stopped to think your man may be different?

My point? These days, couple bottle up so much and refuse to SHARE, forgetting that an issue shared is half resolved and then the weight reduces, thus it doesn’t affect our sex life and playtime which is VERY CRITICAL. Most couples have forgotten to play with each other; everything is strictly and officially marital. God help us, because his intention is for every one of us to have a happy married life in spite of the challenges, which is just there for a while. Most of us are also too scared to share some things with our spouse because of past experiences, where it wasn’t handled well but as you grow old together, you mature as well so don’t be afraid to try and trust your partner again.

This is also a shout out to all intending happy couples, you need to give first to receive and you can only achieve that if GOD is your backbone and not men. Men will only pollute your mind and feed your doubts against your partner and ultimately destroy your marriage. Like my mentor and spiritual father would say, anyone feeding your doubts, doesn’t like you and is ultimately an enemy to your progress.

It is never too late to GIVE, LOVE, SHARE and TRUST.