Work it out, NOW!!!

Was at work when a colleague received a phone call, from the beginning to the end of the conversation, she was giggling and grinning widely. I must confess, I felt a bit jealous of her, wondering what the line of conversation is with her hubby, or so I thought, that could maintain that kind of wonderful look on her face. Immediately, I remembered when my hubby was courting me, he was much of a straight forward, no-beating-around the bush kinda person, and still is, but we used to have long conversations and anyone who saw me on the phone then, would instantly know that the person at the other end of the phone must be someone special.

Well, as our relationship got deeper, the talks got shorter and now if there's a call at all, it is more harried and straight to the point of purpose. Sometimes I crave for that time again but now I realise there are more responsibilities and our heads are full, thinking of this and that. Most times, I feel I should make a move but the first thing that comes to mind is 'I would see him when I get home, it can wait'. Seeing my colleague that day made me realise that some things should not wait. Procrastination only kills the spice in your marriage slowly and before you know it, everything you do becomes formal and out of responsibility.

Imagine my shock though when another colleague teased her about her luvyduvy conversation with her husband and she confided in me that it was actually a friend she was talking to. She further confessed that whenever she felt like talking for long hours, and she calls her hubby she realises that they either don't have much to talk about or one of them is in a hurry to get off the phone and I realised the solid truth behind those words. I am a victim and so many others are too, but just like I told her that day 'take a look outside and you would notice how scorching the sun has been lately, yet a lot of people work in it sweating profusely, on the other hand, some others are covered from the sun enjoying the air conditioner in their office.

That is the way life in marriage is, you can either sweat it out or find your way out of the sun into an air-conditioned office, it is dependent on what you do and how you go about it. It is not easy especially when you have kids, but hey, those children would leave you someday and you would be back to base with your spouse alone. So for me, I am learning to get my groove back and bring back the smile, giggles, tickles, fun of yester years into my marriage and consciously working it out each day. 

Go ye and do likewise!