Can you handle THE TRUTH!

If there's one thing I have promised myself to always keep in mind in my marital life, it's to always tell myself the truth and square up to face it regardless of how bitter it may be. The truth, some say is bitter but I love the part that it also sets free. This tells me, knowledge without manipulation is very powerful. I have been to several weddings this year and have seen how people strive to put quality in the events. Whether they do it to impress others or just to ensure that they have a fun filled day, the most important thing is to know that this is the beginning of something entirely different.

Couples need to realise that being happy in marriage is more than putting happy looking pictures of you and your spouse on social media. I tell those that care to listen, don't ever pray for the kind of marriage your friends have based on what you see and read about them. People never present a bad image of them selves to the public. You don't know what is going on in the privacy of their bedroom.


I've seen beautiful rich couples who travel round the world and seem to have everything but one partner is abusive. Be very careful what you wish for. No one is perfect, I believe by now searching for the perfect person should be considered a cliché. So as the year folds up for another, here are some of the truths I have embraced about marriage in summary (still discovering more though).

Don't ever compare your marriage with the next person, you will only end up miserable.

Don't expect your spouse to be a superhero when you have tried to be one and have failed woefully.

Always remember you are both from different backgrounds, so always leave room for mistakes and be quick to offer and accept apologies when necessary.

Don't think because you are married now, you can't fall into temptation. Remember even the mighty fall, so watch and pray.

Never allow issues between you and your spouse stretch too much. Don't give the devil a chance to sow evil seeds in your home.

Be wary of friends. Let your spouse know your friends and let them know him/her too. Having secret friends knowingly or unknowingly is too much explanation and trouble.

Enjoy your marriage each day and look for ways to excite your spouse and keep the fire glowing.

When things go the way you expect, be grateful, when it doesn't, be more grateful. God can't resist a grateful heart, the blessings keeps coming.

Lastly, Pray! Pray and Pray.