Discover HONOUR by leading the way

Honour for your spouse supercedes wearing your wedding ring. For most of us women, the ring becomes tight when we are pregnant and we sometimes have to take it off. So the ring is just a means to an end but not the end itself. Honour is a mentality, it is not what you just bump into, it is a course on its own. A definition says "To have high esteem or regard" yet another says "To fulfil an obligation or keep an agreement". Sometimes we feel we know the meaning of a word but ...you would be shocked at the various definitions of that word if you take time to research it.
 
From the above meanings, we can safely conclude that when you speak about your spouse amongst your friends in a "playful or naughty" way, you do not honour them. When you do anything contrary to your marriage vows, then you have broken the rules of honour. These things sometimes look simple but everyone of us have at one point of our marriage broken the rules. The good thing however is that we are in a school we pray never to graduate from and so learning is continuous. We can always make up for the past because year in, year out, our experiences makes us more mature.




 
One day, while gisting with a friend, her husband called and after the conversation, I asked if he was around to pick her up but she said no, he was still on his way. Now, we went on talking about how our men expect us to be ready when they are but when it is the other way round, they expect you to understand, we laughed and joked around about them but unknown to us, she had not switched off her phone, so her husband heard every word we said and obviously felt bad. She later realised she had not switched off her phone and confirmed to me that she was "in for it". It was a weekend, so I kept praying for the best for her because I also was truly scared of what the outcome could be. The next time we saw, she confirmed my fears.
 
Before she left home that day, her house was in total disarray, but by the time she got home, she said the house was totally spotless from the sitting room to all the dishes in the kitchen, then her husband in anger told her 'this is what i have been doing that made me come pick you up late, she felt really bad, i felt so so bad too and the rest is history. We both learnt a serious lesson that day, as much as you can honour your spouse with words, you can also hurt and dishonour them with those same words. So this year, in words, actions, deeds and every other thing....Honour your partner like you have never done before. God bless and preserve our marriages this year, AMEN.