The EX-Syndrome....

This issue has become a cause of worry in most homes. If you are single and in a relationship, if for any reason you decide to part with him/her, your reasons must be genuine enough not to fall back into temptation in the future. Let me delve further, when you get married, there's this kind of glow that exudes from your being that gives you a new look that makes everyone compliment you. That is when you hear comments like 'wow, it's good to be married'. At this point, you must know that it's not just our friends, colleagues and family that are watching, your ex(es) as the case may be are also watching.

The way and manner you parted doesn't matter, all eyes are on you now. Do not however be deceived that since you are now married, you can just be friends with them, you should understand that there's just this natural force of attraction marriage brings. This is the time some of them will call you out of the blues just to wish you a happy married life and from there call once in a while to check up and before you know they become family friends.

I know there are always exception to the rules, but please if your partner is not comfortable with your friendship with this category of friends, then maintain a solid distance. With this set of people you need to be extra careful, reason is that you once shared feelings and had a bond and such are not easily broken, especially when you see each other and see how well the other person is looking really good, better than when you parted ways...
When you are in a relationship it is important to be careful of the words and promises you utter. Words are spirit and they have life, they shape our future. Where we are today is as a result of the words we spoke in the past, so once again be careful of the promises you make having it in mind that every promise is a debt you owe and until you fulfil it, you are a debtor.

Some of us wish we could turn back the hands of time and unbind some words that have caused so much havoc in our different lives, relationships and homes. Having said this, it is pertinent to emphasis that the EX in question doesn't necessarily have to be a single person, YES! he/she might be married, it does not matter, as long as they have blood flowing in their veins and they are human, please keep your distance. Anyone can fall into temptation even when you are both married.

I say this with all sincerity, I am not perfect where this topic is concerned, I've had my own battles with emotions from the past that is why I can encourage someone going through the same. For we women especially, if sex was involved in the relationship, it is hard to let go, that is why sex before marriage is not a good idea. Asides from the spiritual implication, it gives room for comparism which could cause damage in your marriage. The way these thoughts creep on you unawares, if you do not guard your heart, you will find yourself wishing beyond your control, please be careful..